Cuz I don't want somebody, loving everybody, a shy is the kind of guy that will only be mine. Being shy can make sometimes make dating seem impossible but it doesn't have to be. Think your natural-born bashful tendencies are keeping you single? Think again. While you may sometimes feel anxious, uncertain, and/or insecure when it comes to dating, the truth is that the right kind of man will appreciate your unassuming ways. When in doubt, the following five tips should help ease your dating anxiety and help you ultimately woo the man of your dreams.
Fake it Till you Make It
If you’re a shy guy, you’ll need to start projecting self-confidence when dealing with men, even if you don’t fully feel it yet. Keep in mind, confidence is different than bragging and boasting. A confident man can comfortably make eye contact with a cute stranger, offer a friendly smile, and strike up a casual conversation without seeming phony or full of himself. If the idea of approaching a man you don’t know feels overwhelming, take it slow. Practice making and maintaining eye contact every day for a week. The following week, add a friendly smile to your efforts. Once that feels natural, start saying hello. It’s true what they say — practice makes perfect, so the more you put these new behaviors into practice, the more natural they’ll become. By the time you meet someone amazing, you’ll be ready, willing, and able to confidently and comfortably ask him out.
Retrain your Brain
If your beliefs about dating have been largely negative, it’s time to retrain your brain. The past is the past. Let go of any dating disappointments and other drama you’ve experienced. Believe that future dating success IS possible for you. By thinking positively, you engage the law of attraction. In turn, you start attracting healthy, happy, confident men into your life. When in doubt, practice the following exercise. Every morning when you wake up, and also right before you go to bed, say to yourself, “Dating is…” and fill in the blank. Examples include “Dating is easy,” “Dating is fun,” “Dating is abundant,” etc. The key is to retrain your brain until you actually embrace your new belief system. Once you do, you’ll be surprised at how easily you’ll attract someone.
Be your Best Self
Just as you should fake confidence and retrain your brain, you should also strive to become your best self. How? By looking, acting, and talking as though you know who you really are and that you are comfortable in your own skin. This, too, can take time to implement. Day by day, work toward becoming the best version of yourself. If that means joining a gym to lose a couple of pounds, splurging on a few stylish new wardrobe pieces that make you feel better about yourself, and/or taking a class on presenting with confidence, go for it. men are drawn to men who genuinely seem to like themselves without being boastful or arrogant.
Take an Interest in Him
Not comfortable talking about yourself when you meet someone new? Engage him in conversation! First of all, your interest in him and his life will be a refreshing change of pace from all the other self-absorbed guys he’s ever dated. Second, men like to feel interesting, desirable, and/or intriguing to men during the courtship process. By giving him the green light to open up and share, he’ll feel more attractive and in turn be more inclined to let you into his world.
Embrace your Shyness
Okay, this next piece of advice may feel counterintuitive to everything else included in this article. But here’s the deal: men dig men who are inherently humble. As a shy guy, you have the advantage of not possessing boastful or arrogant genes. So while you may need to work on your level of self-comfort and confidence to get a man’s attention, always remember that your natural-born bashful tendencies will be appreciated by the right man. Instead of apologizing for being shy, embrace it, work with it, and be yourself.
While there are some men out there in the dating trenches who are addicted to chasing bad boys, there are plenty of other healthy and happy men who are ready, willing, and able to appreciate a good man. As a shy guy, it’s up to you to get out there, practice your personal dating and flirting style, and make yourself available to these amazing men. They are out there. It’s up to you to do the work, become your most confident self, and play to your inherent strengths.
