Everyone wants a man that can go for hours until they get a man that can go for hours. Being long winded is a gift and a curse. On one hand people love it, stamina can make even average sex seem mind blowing because you're exhausted by the end. On the other hand, if your partner's objective is to get you to climax, they may be left disappointed and frustrated that despite all their efforts, they just can't get you to nut.
I'm speaking from first hand experience on this one. I rarely, if ever orgasm from penetration. It just does not happen for me. You can do backflips and splits on my dick and its not going down unless you're going to put in some over time.
So How Long Should Sex Last? Most scientific studies show sex lasts anywhere from three to seven minutes. This data, from all the normal people who see therapists for sexual problems, corresponds closely to earlier studies, which put the average at five to seven minutes.
"Very few people have intercourse that goes longer than 12 minutes," says sex therapist Barry W. McCarthy. Essentially, ejaculatory inhibition, which is also called "delayed orgasm" or "junkie orgasm," has less to do with actual time than an inability to ejaculate when you'd like. And premature ejaculation, which is also called "rapid ejaculation" or "your ejaculation," refers to intercourse that lasts less than a minute or two."
So what to do for your longwinded boo, here's five tips that make help you out:
Talk it Up
Sometimes its best to address your issues head on. Your man may already know that he is long winded. By communicating your desire to please him, you can learn a few of the ways that he gets off. Once you understand what he needs, you can be a willing participant in his climax. Be sure to have this conversation outside of the bedroom when you are both in a great mood. Should he be only able to climax through masturbation, find ways to pleasure him to heighten his release.
Fill Up on Foreplay
Contrary to popular belief, men do enjoy foreplay. It sets the mood for great sex and allows you to connect with your partner on a deeper level. When making love to a man that’s long winded, its good to add foreplay to your arsenal. Sensual massage can turn him on and bring him closer to a climax. Kissing, touching and licking his erogenous zones can heighten sex . If your man is aural, reading erotica can fill his ears with fantasy.
Power Up the Porn
Men are visual and sometimes they need something to look at to get them ready for the big moment. While you may not be cool with the idea of him watching porn to get himself going, it could be the solution when done strategically. Find his favorite video and encourage him to watch it while you are cleansing your body for sex. Take your time to pamper yourself while he takes in the sights and sounds. Once you enter the room, he should be ready to go. You may find that the act of him getting himself worked up makes his climax happen sooner.
Using A Premium Lubricant
Using a higher quality lubricant that creates more sensation is essential. Lubrication creates a silky glide that will heighten the feeling. Your partner will be able to feel more of you increasing his sensitivity. I love organic lubes, there a great addition to the bedroom. It doesn’t dry out and has vitamin e and aloe to soothe and increase intimacy. Adequate lubrication will keep intercourse from becoming uncomfortable.
Time for the Toys
When you are having sex with a long winded man, you are more likely to reach your orgasm before he does. Adding toys into the mix can keep him going when your energy is spent. Not only do sex toys provide hours of stimulation, they can help him reach orgasm faster.
The Super Sucker gives a realistic oral sex sensation. It has an inner texture that will make him forget you are not down there. Apply lubricant, slip on him and continue with foreplay. The unique sensation can make him pop.
Men who are long winded bottoms can increase stimulation through prostate play.
The anal region has the largest concentration of nerve endings on the body. Focusing on this region can keep him engaged and highly aroused until his big moment. The Velvet Plush Vibrating Mini is the perfect size for newbies. Not only does it provide pleasure to the male G spot, it also massages the balls sending shock waves through his body. While he is enjoying this sensation, you can provide foreplay to his most sensitive spots to enhance his orgasm.