1. You Love The Way They Smell
When you’ve been dating or in a relationship with someone for a long time, you come to know what they smell like. You know what kinds of colognes they like, what type of shower gel they use, you don’t even mind it when they’re a little bit…funky. That’s because you can look past all the bad traits and you constantly see the good stuff. You walk into your apartment when they’re gone but you smell them and you know that they were just there before you. Smells linger — on dirty laundry, on pillows you’ve laid on. Scents by themselves don’t necessarily make us fall in love with someone, but they trigger our emotions. That’s because scents are the ghosts leftover when our loves go away.
2. You Love The Way They Make You Nervous
When our loves make us nervous, it’s because we feel attached to them. Not needy, but attached. They give us that warm, fuzzy feeling, the feeling you only get when there’s an emotional attachment to that person. You’re nervous because you care. You’re nervous because you want them to love you back. Love makes us all fragile and vulnerable, and nervousness is the way our bodies let us know that we’re in that state.
3. You Love Their Laugh
We know that laughter should play a key role in any meaningful relationship, but have you ever thought about how you start to laugh like the people you are in relationships with? You love their laugh so much that it has taken over your own style of laughter. But that’s only natural. When you’re so intimate and connected to someone, clearly you borrow their speech patterns and body language. Consider it a form of flattery.
4. You Know Them Better Than They Know Themselves
Everybody has style, even the people who think they don’t care about fashion. Style is the wrapping that makes us want to discover what’s underneath, but like smell it is also a kind of ghost. You can be out shopping and see a shirt or a pair of underwear that you know your significant other will love. You instantly have a flash of them, smile all to yourself, and buy it for them because you know them better than they know themselves.
5. They make You Feel Safe
When you date someone, they should make themselves available. They have to make you feel like they care, and the best way to do that is to make you feel safe. You feel safe in their arms at night. You feel safe sitting with them at dinner at your favorite restaurant. You feel safe when they take care of you when you’re sick.
6. You Can’t Imagine Living Without Them
There are a lot of reasons people get into or out of relationships. No relationship is ever picture perfect — they all have problems. But at the end of the day, no matter what other ridiculousness is going on, ask yourself: can you imagine living without this person? If you stopped talking to this person right now, forever, would you care? If the answer is a big fat no, for the love of God end it now. But if the answer is yes, no matter what problems you have, it’s worth trying to work it out.