Road trips are a fun way to get to know your new boo, as well as an exciting adventure. It can also be nerve testing, but it's also a great way to become closer to each other. With Spring comes graduations, parties, Memorial Day, and shortly thereafter summer with all the travel it entails. You and your new bae may find yourselves facing a long road trip together for the first time. There’s a lot to love—and a few common pitfalls to look out for—while spending time strapped in together.
Setting the mood:
Have Apple Music, Tidal, Spotify and Pandora on deck, there’s still romance to be found in your music choice. Whether you make a special playlist or download an app to do it for you, your thought and effort will help set the tone for your ride. If you’re the driver, consider asking your co-pilot to play some music they like. It’s a good way to connect and make conversation, helping both pass the drive time and deepen your connection, all with the added benefit of enjoyable tunes.
Preparing for your arrival:
Traveling to the hometown of your new squeeze for a holiday or celebration? Even if you’ve met the family before, being on your honey’s home-turf brings new challenges. If you’re the one bringing someone special home, a little preparation goes a long way. Offer your new love some insider-tips: Has Ms. Walker been working at the Wing Palace since you were in 10th grade? Does your brother roll a good blunt? Is your aunt going to get drunk at the party and cut the fool? Giving your companion a few small heads-ups about personalities and the idiosyncrasies of where you’re from, you’ll both enjoy your trip more.
Pit-stops: to pee or not to pee
Many of us have strong feelings about making good time versus making time for driving breaks, and it’s a good idea to find out where you both stand before you set out for your journey. No one wants to have an argument on the interstate, when you can’t even meet one another’s eye. If you’re a mismatch, fear not. Your relationship isn’t doomed, but how you handle each other’s needs is important. If you’d rather drive six straight hours and ensure you arrive in time for dinner, but your new flame feels more comfortable with hourly leg stretching, consider working out a compromise beforehand: maybe one scheduled stop, halfway, with a wild-card emergency break if someone decides they’ve had too much coffee.
Knowing how to get there is half the battle
We have Google Maps and GPS for the turn-by-turn, and those gentle voices will even speak the directions aloud, forgoing the need for an alert and map-literate co-pilot. Hopefully many potential arguments and hurt feelings can now be avoided. But what if you and your squeeze disagree about more than Google can handle? What if it’s not the directions, but destination itself, or the best route to take, that becomes a sticking point? In these cases, Quoted recommends a few deep breaths, a pause, and remembering that being right isn’t most important. Instead, being a supportive and flexible companion will show your new love that the relationship trumps your ego. And, if the trip takes a little extra time, or you go slightly off course, it’ll be a great anecdote for your friends someday.
Dos and Don’ts:
Keep your road rage in check
Go 50-50 on the music choices
Offer to take the wheel
Feed the driver and give head scratches (if you’re averse to driving, these are great ways to keep your co-pilot job)
Speed; you won’t look cool if you get pulled over
Be afraid to try your comedy routines
Chat with your mom—really—you can catch up later
No matter if you’ve been together for one week or six months, your first long car trip together is an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of each other. The confined space and shared goal of reaching the destination offers you chances to weather disagreements, gracefully accommodate your companion, and work as a team. If you both still like each other at the end, pat yourselves on the back and squeeze each other’s road-weary hands extra tight; you may have found love.