I'm Sorry, I Didn't Realize Who I Decided To Date Was Any Of Your Fucking Business

"I'm gonna do what I want, Bootz!" - Tiffany Pollard aka New York.  I'm going to date who I want, when I want, for whatever reason I fucking want to, and I don't have to give you a reason why or answer any questions about it.  We good?  We Here?

Cool.  Ya know, I've never understood why people felt that I had to justify to them who I decided to date.  I'm a grown ass man, and I will date who I want to.  The end.  I'm not going to explain to you why I'm gay, just like I'm not going to explain to you why I'm black. 

Speaking of being black, I didn't know that as a black male, anytime you decided to date outside of your race you had to give a reason for it.  I didn't know that following giving said reason, a discusson was to be had amongts the good citizens of the black gay community. I didn't know there was a questionnaire that needed to be filled out.  I must have missed gay orientation where they told you all this shit.

My relationship is not some public forum or some town hall meeting where everyone gets to come up to the mic and express to me their questions, comments or concerns.

I know you're thinking "Where is this going"  Well here's reason behind the post.  A  friend of mine wanted to talk about a mutual friend of ours new boyfriend and his desire to only date latino guys. To give you some background about me, I normally don't entertain conversations about someone eles's relationship with a third party, and I'm not going to discuss your relationship with you.  The only exceptions are if you initiate the conversation or I fear for your safety and or sanity.  Relationships are complicated enough without outside interference. 

So I was insulted that race was his first and major concern. Not is he happy, or is he being treated nicely?  Does he make him laugh? Does he play Call of Duty? "Can he play spades?" "Can he cook?" "Does he smoke tree?  Is the sex good?  You know, best friend shit. (go bestfriend, thats my bestfriend, thats my bestfriend).

His questions ran a little something like this:

"Does he have something against black guys?"

"Did he have a bad experience with a black guy?"

"Is this some type of self hate issue?"

(Ironically this was the same shit my mom asked about girls)

I have fucks to give but, 0 for this shit.

My response to him was:

Are you fucking kidding me with this?  That's what you wanted to talk about? You don't have to fuck him.  You don't have to wake up to his morning breath, why the fuck do you care? 

As I stated earlier my relationships are not a matter of public opinion and you are not entitled to weigh in or get a response.  There are no primaries, there are no debates, my mom doesn't get a vote, and neither do you.  So I extend the same courtesy to you.

Now I love black love and I love black men (take a look around) and I love being black, and if you don't want to date black guys thats fine,  I'mma still slam dunk em.   I've tasted the rainbow, and men are more like M&M's than Skittles: they come in different shapes and colors but they all taste the same.  I don't prefer one over the other and I don't care if you don't like M&M's at all. 

Now if you don't eat yellow M&M's because of some stereotype about yellow M&M's, or if you think all yellow M&M's cheat on their lovers, or you hate yellow M&M's because they look like you or because you think red M&M's are superior, I might think you're a racist, but again I'm not fucking you and that's something you have to get over.  (Sidenote: The Un-Date-Able come in assorted flavors)

In closing, who you fuck doesn't make me nut.  I don't give a fuck who you date, its none of my fucking business or anyone elses.  If you decide to only date white guys, have at it!  If you only want asian guys, or black guys or guys with beards, or men with bad credit, or men with good credit or men with with kids, midgets, or astronauts or guys that want you to pee on them, who fucking ever.  I don't care, I just don't.  I don't and I won't.

I won't care with a mouse,

I won't care in a house,

I won't care here or there,

I won't care anywhere,

I won't care, I won't give a damn.

I won't care,

-Sam I Am